I don't think you validate her saying the kids will be better off. We all know that isn't true. Whatever else she says, maybe validate. But not that. If you validate that, it gives her a clean concious about doing it to the kids. I personally didn't and still won't. Maybe you are better off saying nothing when she says that. But don't agree with her on that. And don't feel bad for standing up for your kids on that issue.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...