The best way to get her to feel safer and drop her guard a little is to AGREE with her. You telling she's wrong will never make her change her mind. It'll just drive the wedge deeper between you.
OK futureunknown...I'll agree with her. That's not the same as letting her bully me, is it? I didn't know that I told her she was wrong. If I don't agree with what she says, I guess the best thing to do is validate and say nothing. When she says the kids will be better off...I don't think so!
I guess I just need to validate period, as I have been doing all along. What if she says something like this..."the kids will be fine..."? Do I agree with that? Or do I remain silent?
I'm really looking for some help, and I do appreciate your input and help. m Please stick around.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
