Completely understandable, but regardless why your marriage is where it is, who can say what fair compensation is? Maybe 1/3 is too much, maybe not enough. A&K and I don't know yours or your W's financial sitch. I suggest you consult with a L before talking with your W. You don't want to offer more than you should because once you set that precedent a judge may make you stick to it, even if it's more than equitable. This is really best left to the lawyers. You and your W are in no condition emotionally to handle the business end of this right now. I tried...it didn't work. It cost me $14k and 2-1/2 yrs of my life, but as I posted earlier it worked out pretty well for me.
I am the W with the WAH who I will probably have to divorce and get the same treatment as the WAWs get. Nothing fair about divorce.
