My Intro: Thanks for Reading!

[billclay18]

Yes, you've got to deal with it realistically, now. She may be pissed but there is no way for her to know what D you really entails if it is not laid out.

So true RSF...if you've followed my thread, you know that my W is now suddenly seeking her share of the equity in the house when I sell it. We discussed this months ago and she said she would not be going after it. The house was mine before we married and was never in her name, but she is entitled to her share of the equity since we were married. Equity can be positive or negative, a gain or a loss. In the current market, it's a loss of about $30k. I doubt when she decided to raise this issue again she ever considered that possibility, but reality rears it's ugly head. I had no intention of sharing that loss with her, but for now it's my trump card if she chooses to raise any other previously agreed upon issues. Sucks, but I've got to cover my a$$.

I hate saying this because I'm so relating to her but you both have to deal with the brutal reality and neither of you should be punitive. Aaargh.

Yep...be fair, be willing to compromise, don't let yourself get screwed.