also told her that if she doesn't love me any more, it's because she chooses not to. Love is a choice...it's not a feeling. I told her that this morning when she called, and it pissed her off.
Of course it did. If she was here I would tell her to set a boundary, it's ok for her to choose are think what she wants. Stop trying to tell her that her feelings are wrong, her choices are wrong, her actions are wrong. It's not up to you, your words won't change her mind.
Regroup, you got a bomb dropped on you again so take care of yourself. Communication - wait until you are less emotional and either validate or say nothing right now. You are hurting and you are going back to old unproductive habits. You can handle it.
Cheers
OK Coach. I am hurting...I did feel that I needed to say a thing or two instead of just validating and taking it on the chin like I have been. I was nice when I said the stuff I did today, as I have been for the last 8 months. She feels the way she does, and I feel the way I do.
OK. I'll regroup. I'll either validate or say nothing. I know I can handle it.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
