My belief is that if both parents are 100% dedicated and capable, 50/50 custody is the best route. Right now W believes that it is unfair that I ask that because I walked out. That is about her not the kids.
My friends think I'm nuts if I don't push for custody if we D because my W has a very stressful, hours intensive job (55-65 hours a week).
Me? I've got a good job with lots of flexibility and I have specialized skills that mean I'll be the last person let go.
I can come and go mostly as I please and I've been, for the last five years, the one who stays home when they're sick, or takes them to dance class, etc.
Right now, though, if we D, I'm not going to push for custody because I don't want the kids to see us fight over it. Her self-esteem is really tied into the girls. She wants to be a good mom even though her job really hurts her ability to do that.
She's not going anywhere in her career -- no degree so she's stuck -- and the demands on her time continue to grow. So over time I'd end up getting them more and more anyway.
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