Heartbroken20 "my XW was crying and stated that she didn't want to lead me on, but she felt that she wanted to leave the door open in the future. I did agree to leave it open as well, but to be honest with every month that passes the likihood of me being open to a new start with XW goes down.
This is where I beleive the LBS becomes the WAS."
WAS talk for if me & OM don't work out, & I can't find anyone else that can make me happy, Keep the door open so you can keep me going for a while untill I find a new person to really make me happy
the worse part about this is the WAS thinks they are fooling you, but they are really fooling themselves
(Alex, actually that was not my comment you quoted above)
Amen to that! That is EXACTLY what I got from it! I have reminded her that I have NEVER, EVER kept in touch with any of my old girlfriends at all. I mean, what would be the purpose? I committed my whole heart and soul to her when we got married and have no interest in stirring up old feelings with an ex-flame. Leads to nothing but trouble IMHO. On the other hand, my wife has kept in touch with the great majority of her old boyfriends because they are still "nice people" who just didn't work out. My wife is from California and I heard one time that that is a typical "California" thing to do. Regardless, why would I want to take her back later so she can decide AGAIN sometime down the road that she is unhappy with me? If I'm going to go through pain of divorce, etc., you can be sure that I will look elsewhere to be potentially miserable again, not repeat the same misatke twice!
Me 47 W 44 D16, D13 T 23yrs M 20yrs WAW/MLC + Male EA "BFF from H.S." = Misery
