Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[Kettricken]

<infantile giggling>

..... I don't know why Smiley's threads always become the board playpen, but a shout out to you, SP, for being such a good sport about it .....

[Greek]

I would tell her to put on her Big Girl Pull Ups

Ga-goooooo! (inside joke)

[pollyanna]

Formerly wayward spouses on these very forums talk about how they SAW their spouse's changes, and their loving gestures, but they were blocked from feeling or appreciating them, because they were infatuated with OM/OW.

Absolutely correct. You emotionally switch off your H/W and yu focus only on the good of the OP. In fact the bad of your spouse is magnified due to your rationalising process and guilt ridding thoughts. Their good and love completely overlooked.

[SmileysPerson]

@alive 9/30 4:47 p.m.

Oh puh-leeeez.

I was being sarcastic when I said, "when you've lost the feeling you've lost it."

And that was referring to this idea that the Eros love -- the tingly bit -- is itself fleeting.

Wasn't stipulating that as my own POV, in other words.

[aliveandkicking]

Apologies...my brain is mush.

[SmileysPerson]

Originally Posted By: @PuppyDogTails --

Yep -- and the "eros" love toward a spouse is physiologically blocked when one is in an affair with someone else.

Oh I don't know if that's true.

It is. Read up on it.

I'm not disputing the chemical bit -- I'm disputing the notion that the chemical can't be directed in two ways at once.

[SmileysPerson]

<infantile giggling>

..... I don't know why Smiley's threads always become the board playpen, but a shout out to you, SP, for being such a good sport about it .....

Because that's the way I roll....

Sh*t -- if we can't laugh every now and again, what's the point, really?

[SmileysPerson]

WAW has boarded the Crazy Train, and despite the fact that she said she would get off of it, apparently the seats are just too dam comfortable.

She is in Foreign Capital City which is where (and I think not coincidentally) this whole adventure began because it was there that she decided to Drop The Bomb.

As a result she has bought a first-class compartment on the Crazy Train direct to Nutsoville with stops at La-La-Land, FantasyWorld, and Planet Bizzaro.

Here's what I'm going to do -- in WAW's head, as expressed in the most head-scratching series of e-mails yet received (so much so that I'm now fully back in drop-the-rope, ignore-and-don't-reply mode):

1. Have lots of "love-making" with Miss Someone, during which we laugh about WAW;

2. Introduce Miss Someone to the children, marry her, and move the entire family to Famous Asian City;

3. Trick WAW into having sex with me so that I can "toss her away" and get my revenge;

4. Tell the children that she is a bad mother and that BMCFriend is much better; and

5. Take all of her money and force her to be homeless.

Drat! Somehow she has discovered my Master Plan. She must have penetrated the defenses here in my High-Tech Subterranean Lair.

It's really sad to see someone who meant so much for so many years go so completely -- and apparently willingly -- off the Deep End.

[hoosiermama]

well yeah, just playing out her worst fears. she's looking for some reassurance.

[Thinker]

What's Interesting about that is that this is pretty much the initial shock and fear that an LBS has when he/she first discovers an A and gets the bomb.

1. Have lots of "love-making", during which WAS and OP laugh about LBS;

2. Introduce OP to the children, marry him/her, and and separate the children from LBS;

3. Toss away the LBS;

4. Replace the LBS with OP as a parent to the children.

5. Force a D settlement that is so inequitable that LBS is in effect "Homeless".

Sounds like she is going through the process. It's just that (as seems to be the case with many things in your sitch) its a bit more uh...dramatic... than in the rest of our's.