Hoping WAW will someday see through the fog....

[shellshockedga]

Well, today she moved out a TV (which we agreed she could have) and somehow managed to get help and move a couch to her new place. I did not contribute at all. The tough part is tonight, we get to explain to the boys that things are about to change in a big way. Simple and direct, letting her do the talking. I will only ask if they have questions. She was very emotional today as she should be. I held back, let her know that I was prepared for this situation, and then went to excercise. She was none to happy that I would not help, but I am not contributing to her destroying our family. That is pure nonsense. Now she gets to see what life will be like on the other side. It wont be a true representation, but at least something.

She was extremely PO off about me visiting a L, but just like a WAS she already had an appointment with a mediator. Geezze, just be honest. I guess she was mad because I led and she did not control it? I dont know.

There is still love there on my side, don't know about hers, but suspect there is. I am hopefull that her time away will kick start her into thinking. If nothing else, it will provide me time to reduce some of the stress. I have the boys for the first week of this convoluted, messed up arrangement. Time to stand tall and show the kids how a strong father acts in tough times. I wouldnt wish this upon anyone, but perhaps the boys will be able to look at me and learn how a man acts when things are at their worst. Something they can draw on someday if, God forbid, they are ever in the same sitch.

**** For anyone that has been there, guidance and suggestions on how to deal with the boys (10,12) is appreciated. I have a week, then she comes to the house and I go away for work for a week. I want to make this as normal as is possible for them, but be there for support. Do I ask them how they feel or wait for them to ask questions or show emotions? 4 hours until the time to tell.