My W took all our wedding pics and many momentos of our life as well. When we found out she was pregnant with our first child, I went right out and bought her a little abstract statue of a man holding a woman and the woman holding a baby. She loves that statue, it was always displayed on a shelf in our living room. When she left, I couldn't look at that statue any more so I put it in the box with our wedding pics. She took the box, and she now has that statue on a shelf in her living room. How can she look at it?
She also took a family portrait we had taken a couple years ago, and that's now displayed on the coffee table in her living room. There I am, staring back at her whenever she's in her living room watching TV. What's up with that?
What does it matter what she does now? Hmm, I guess I can see that.
I suppose that if I were to come home tonight and find that she had piled her trunk, wedding dress, wedding photo's and all our other married momentos in a pile in the backyard and had a nice little bonfire going, that wouldn't have any meaning behind it either.
Guys, I hear you, what she chooses to do right now is her call, and I need to try to divest myself from her and concentrate on me. But the reality is, some things do can have a sense of meaning and importance behind them, and they can serve as tell tails.
Buttercup, I think you get where I'm coming from here. The fact is, the trunk has meaning to her, not just because it was something I made or because she likes it. It represents our engagement and our marriage. I'm surprised and glad that she is taking it, and a little puzzled too. In the grand scheme of things, as we work on budgets and parenting agreements, it means very little. But a little is all we need.
