I was answering your question about "why are things harder now?" if they have both seemed to manage ok this past year. The answer (correct me if I'm wrong RSF) is that he no longer wants to compensate financially for having left the marriage and wants to make it more legit. I'm saying what you're saying. But it sucks being on the left behind and financially screwed end of it.
Yes it does suck being on that end. I feel like I've been putting it off and I keep putting it off for DBing and other reasons. I would rather wait even longer and save my marriage. I would suck it up for a long time but it may come back to burn me.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09