[quote=Heartbroken20I very much understand your finally getting fed up with all of it, I feel that way often, and have considered that she may be trying to do things so I will be the one to leave and relieve her of the guilt she feels for driving all of this. But then I try to give her the benefit of the doubt and believe she just doesn't know WHAT she wants and is just trying to do what she believes is best for all of us in the long run. Despite that benefit, and the immense hurt it causes, I just try to maintain a level-head and take responsibility for my own actions, as I can not control hers, nor majorly affect her feelings at the moment. All I can do is keep my eye on the future and struggle with each obstacle the best way I know how. In the end, it may not work, but at least I will know in my heart that I did everything I could to keep us together. [/quote]
You seem to have a good approach to you situation, much like I did and still do. When I signed the papers, my XW was crying and stated that she didn't want to lead me on, but she felt that she wanted to leave the door open in the future. I did agree to leave it open as well, but to be honest with every month that passes the likihood of me being open to a new start with XW goes down.
This is where I beleive the LBS becomes the WAS.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
