I've heard two schools of thought on this. If you do go down the D path, your daughter is never going to know you guys together and should adjust since that is how her life has always been.
I was 12 when my parents divorced and my childhood had two distinct phases -- before and after.
My D10 is really struggling with our split. Even the D7 is right now, although as she gets older, if we don't get back together, most of her childhood will have been with us apart.
All I can say is when she starts talking, call her every day. Take every opportunity you can to see her.
Life sucks sometimes.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
