I am giving your thread a bump because I want to keep track of it and give you some more input later when I have time (crazy work week).
In short, don't worry about ultimatums just yet.
Get the book by Gary Chapman called 5 Love Languages.
Get DR. I 'clicked' with it a whole lot more than DB.
If you listed your condo in a fit of hurt and anger, maybe you could hold off on the listing for a bit? I don't mean to sound heavy handed, but if you reconcile, will you really regret having sold that condo?
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
