Yesterday he had to come by in the morning as my heater was not working (I turned it on for the first time and nothing!). I had to call him as he put it in. He looked like heck. Said he wasn't feeling well..this was all after he gave baby big hugs and kisses. So he fixes the heater and leaves. Sends a text later saying he won't be over for his visit as he is home and really sick. I said ok, feel better. Then he asks if I care? I ignore.
Later he sends a text saying he has the swine flu! What?! He was just hugging and kissing on baby and he has the swine flu? He asks me to look up symptoms. I told him if he does he needs to let me know asap. Once again he asks if I care. I say "I did, but you chose another life". He just responds with "take care". Haven't heard from him since. He did talk to my son on FB IM yesterday and wants to go hunting with him. Yeah right.
Why does the guy still want me to care? He has his life. Damnit...I want mine.
So, the rest of the day was decent. Today will be a good one too.
Last edited by Startingover2; 10/01/0901:12 PM.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Good point VD! I never thought about that. Not sure if I mentioned it or not the other day but when he was here Monday his hand was shaking really bad. He was holding an ice cream cone for baby and it was shaking all over. Hmmm.....?
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
No, only seen him itch once and that is when he had morphine. Rx scare me as he does have some prescriptions for meds but he abuses them, not to mention the ones he is getting from gf. How do you prove abuse? I know him. He hasn't coped without some sort of meds and/or alcohol in almost 20 years. Not going to be able to stop just like that.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Another really long night. Baby just will not sleep thru the night.
Yes, it is illegal, but how do you prove that. The only way I know he is getting them from her is spying on his emails (im ducking right now LOL).
Another weekend here. Going to try and stay busy.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
The only way I know he is getting them from her is spying on his emails
Which is illegal also...
I would talk to your L tell him your concerns and see if as a condition of him seeing your baby he has to take a drug test, after each visit...that way you know if he was using during the visit, if he gets unsupervised visits.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
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