You left (stupid, selfish, hurtful, etc.), but you realized that and wanted to reconcile. She doesn't...therefore any financial hardship you both face is as much because of her choices as yours. She choose to move on with her life, she choose not to take you back. Fine, her decision and maybe best for her in the long run, but that decision, justifiable as it may be, comes with a cost.
My W left and I'm struggling big time financially (as I'm sure she is). This was not my choice. However, if my W suddenly wanted to reconcile and I said no, than my continuing financial struggles would be by my choice. I'm not implying couples should stay together for financial reasons...just saying financial struggles go with the territory.
Provide whatever additional $$$ you can afford to...if you can't...so be it. You need some quality of life as do your D's when they are with you.
Me45 (D11 from 1st marriage) W43 (D20 & D16 from 1st marriage) M4 Bomb 6/16/09 W wants D W moved out 8/29/09 I sent her D paperwork 9/25/09...I'm done
