Well I know you didn't expect that. I know it is not what you want to hear but there wasn't a whole lot of negative in her email. She has some points and she is communicating with you. I really see a lot of hope in your sitch.

M 33, W 30, SD 10, D 5, S 4

Made it through the WAW, living happily together now. And I am much wiser for it!