Well, I emailed/spoke with her about this, and told her I didn't think it would be approprite to continue with the bedtime routine after she leaves. I explained that I would not have the same situation at her place, and it would be confusing for our son. She gave it some thought and agreed. She was concerned that she would have to drop him off at the front door, and I assured her that would not be the case. He's our son, not a bag of groceries. We'll have a pleasant transition, talk about his day, and then she will say goodnight. I also convinced her that she would need to drop him off earlier than she originally planned to give him time to decompress and get ready for bed. She agreed to this as well, but I can see that the reality of the situation, and that she will not have him around as much as her fantasy led her to believe is hurting her terribly. I know this isn't easy for her, and she's not taking these steps lightly, but it looks like she's getting her first slap of reality and getting a taste of the bitterness of her decision to leave our home and marriage.
