Bingo. You need to understand her pain that she felt this was her only option.
This doesn't mean talking to her about it. It means seeing and listening with better eyes and ears, when you do see her.
You have an opportunity as far as going dark is concerned. I don't imagine you meditate, but if it's something you're willing to work at, yuo might be amazed at some of the things you see within yourself.
There are so many lessons to be learned in all of this. I can't even begin to tell you the things I have seen in myself. Good and bad.
Am I the woman I thought I'd be? Always wanted to be? No.
So what do I do? I work at it.
Is my H going to see all this and then beg to come back? I hope not. That's not what I'm looking for. I'm looking to see the pirate queen in the mirror and to have a life of adventure. A life of stories to tell. I'm not jumping out of a perfectly good plane. My adventures are of a different nature. What would yours look like?
Could it include H? Maybe at some point. This isn't that juncture. This doesn't mean I don't love and miss him. I do. I just know that there is more work for me to do.
It can be really hard to go dark when you see them frequently and talk about the kids, but keep it about the kids and "business". It isn't cruel. Think of her as a nice woman who's really interested in you kids.
and to have a life of adventure. A life of stories to tell. I'm not jumping out of a perfectly good plane. My adventures are of a different nature. What would yours look like?
