UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[Eskimo Nell]

So, here's the thing. I have just spent ages answering H's emails and after all the diatribe, decided that to be business like and to the point (which he prefers instead of a long winded email) I have dot pointed the following response:

The water problem got resolved - cost me an arm and a leg for a Bank Holiday weekend call out

The position was exceptionally frustrating - I over-reacted when water was gushing everywhere

I frequently forget that you are no longer available to help me

I was not ranting - I purely said the truth of what was on my mind, which appeared to have upset you

The F word was not called for and I did not deserve it

I fail to see why you are so annoyed with me all the time - please explain to help me understand

I shall also be away for the tribunal hearing - please can you re-schedule


I have not answered his question of how is work or how am I doing. No mention of the cats. His first email was four words long - Water Bill paid today. Second email a bit more chatty but accusative of me ranting at him and third email basically telling me that he would 'gen me up' on what to expect at the tribunal.

So, is my response too blunt and business like and not affirming/validating enough (!!) and, should I do a 180 and go to the tribunal alone, allowing H to 'gen me up' first or do I just cancel and get him to make the alternate appointment? There's a lot riding on the outcome of the tribunal - it's fairly huge and another big cop-out from H. Granted that he has gone on his own to the preliminary hearings (I was unable to due to work) but this should be the final and I am afraid that it's too valuable to screw up. They will make minced meat of a 'mere' female on her own.

Also, what do people think on the timing of the response ... should I just wait a day or two or wait until early next week? Oh - and I am not going away at all, just making that bit which gives the 'mysterious Nell' a trip out of the valley!

ALTERNATIVELY - I could cancel the tribunal myself and stay dark, with no answer to any of the emails. Think that would just P him off however. Answers please!