"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
As reported on other thread, O'dog and She had first 'family' time together with kids since maybe a week after the sep. It went OK but I didn't feel huge emotions in any particular direction. I felt a little cautious even.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
hi, a word of caution about "family" time... it might just send kids the wrong message, they might think you guys are getting back together (even after we told kids we were D'ing and it was all over, months later my son still asked his dad when was he moving back in.
Kids hold on to the hope things will work out, and being together might put more hope in their hearts. My kids are about the same age as yours, so I can see how the oldest one might be pretty sure you guys wont be divorcing and the little one had no good clue what's going on.
Don't go by your emotions, dont' act upon them... you see where most WAS went when going by their gut feeling. Take care))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
The youngest one can still be easily confused. While sometimes he seems to pick up things from others and understands divorce things easily (child psychologist calls it "normalization", I call it "yuuukk"), other times he can leap to some big conclusions. After seeing "The Parent Trap", he was worried for a long time that each parent was going to take one kid.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Short hearing. Nothing major brought up. Business-like mood. Judge signed papers and O'dog walked out with a certified copy of the divorce decree.
RIP 06/14/94 to 09/30/09
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The She said she'd pick up kids for din. I invited too, or "You can use it for your <airquotes> Self time </airquotes>. It's a sunny day. The woofy and I will go for a long run.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Well O'dog, isnt it strange that it can all be undone so easily? I hope that you are doing well, and I hope that this can open the door for you to start healing.
(((O'dog)))
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
Thanks Bluerain. Spent some time with friends then daughter.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
O'Dog, Haven't followed your sitch and I really don't post here much anymore, but the dates that you posted caught my eye. Looks like had about 6 months more months than my marriage (9/17/94 - 6/17/09).
That final decree is a strange thing isn't it? A great burden lifted, but it really doesn't feel good. Just wanted to give a little boost here and let you know that good things can and will come. Disintangle yourself from her. Focus on you and the kids. My ex move out last April, so I've had about a year and a half of experiencing the dating scene again. It can be fun, but can also be a bit discouraging. I met someone this past weekend that I really clicked with and she feels the same. I feel like a teenager again. Very strange, but very good.
Good thinks will come for you. Time to make some lemonade.
Trying to untangle but can only do so much with two kids still involved. 11 more years of this?!? Sometimes I wish I could just go far away and not deal with it anymore.
Haven't been in the mindset to try dating. I look and think about it but maybe later.
There's a whole pile of issues that I probably shouldn't be considering yet but they are rattling around upstairs anyway.
Second marriages? Kids? Blended families? Uggh! Not right now.
How about just friends for now.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Long phone conversation with She. I guess it's a good thing we're cordial.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
