I'm mostly worried about day-to-day. It comes up in conversations and I stumble a lot trying to avoid saying the wrong thing. Then I can't think what the right thing is. I don't want to hurt them or make them feel bad their mom chose to hurt me. It's confusing and I figure I'll probably just have to do my best and deal with the screw-ups as they come.
There are just a few principles to this - no pursuit (don't be needy, clingy, desperate or try to save WAS from their bad decisions), improve yourself (correct your faults, develop your self-confidence, GAL and don't be afraid) and detach (accept the worst case scenario and realize you will be ok even if the worst case happens). As long as you are following those principles, there are no "wrong" answers or actions.
And, if you want to think of it in another way, just ask yourself if what you are about to say or do is the right thing for YOU. Don't worry what she thinks. Is it the right thing to do or say?
