8 months into it, first post

[EJohn]

Don't hurry about making "any" lifelong decisions.

Thanks sandi2. With the pretrial hearing coming up in just over a month, I just feel like I'm running out of time. I do want to try, and similar to your signature quote, I'd rather fail trying, than not trying at all.

I meet with the lawyer next week to work on the proposal for the pretrial, and I've thought of asking for an extension to try to work things out, but if it comes from me, wouldn't that look like weakness and push her away more? I want to give her more time, although it might hit her when she receives the proposal and she may ask for an extension. This is a big decision, and I don't want to be a few years down the road with regret.