I'm mostly worried about day-to-day. It comes up in conversations and I stumble a lot trying to avoid saying the wrong thing. Then I can't think what the right thing is. I don't want to hurt them or make them feel bad their mom chose to hurt me. It's confusing and I figure I'll probably just have to do my best and deal with the screw-ups as they come.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)