Finding peace in oneself makes us whole. We can't successfully live with another if we can't live by ourselves. We can't successfully love another if we can't love ourselves. The point isn't whether D is right its that you'll be happy, healthy and strong no matter which path your marriage ultimately follows.
Nell, this quote came from redsoxfan. I really liked it and thought you might like it too and that you might like to keep it for your quote bank.