...I wonder if my W realizes that, by going out every night to get away from me, she's also getting away from her son. I guess things are so awful for her that the tradeoff is worth it.
The "Going out every night" is a glaring red flag. Are you SURE there isn't an OM in the picture?
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.