All I can say to you is that is it hard. What may help is learning to set good boundaries - detachment - letting go of the stuff that doesn't matter and only taking responsibility for your own stuff. Can't do more. That is all that can save you - I remember the drip...drip... drip stuff - it would wear me out until I screamed and then H would walk out on me. Can't win that way. Remember - it is his stuff and you don't have to take responsibility for it.
