I wish she would just rent. She has a bunch of reasons why buying is better though and my trying to talk her out of it makes her more sure she wants to do it.
Hang on. You are trying to argue/reason with a WAW? You KNOW you can't do that. So, stop. You cannot control this.
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Should I just lay it on the table and ask her when she is planning to be gone?
Should I tell her that I am sick of being strung along and want her to get out?
Whoa. What is your goal? You know if you push too early what's going to happen.
It sounds like you are frustrated, tired, pi$$ed off, angry - ALL UNDERSTANDABLE. But all emotional. Don't use that as a basis for your decision.
I am emotional tonight. I meant to say that I haven't tried to talk her out of buying because when I have tried to reason with her on other stuff it has made her more determined to do the opposite of what I have wanted.
Maybe I handled it all wrong tonight. I'm still trying to be the good guy. I still love her. I feel bad for her but I also feel very mistreated and get so frustrated.
I'm typing on my phone so I won't get into too many details. She still talks about feeling so guilty and her reasons for this change. Now she says that she says she's felt the 'in love' feeling for me at points this week, but can't explain why she feels she needs to go. She says that she sees what she's putting me through and doesn't deserve my understanding attitude.
I told her that I can accept that she feels she has to leave, but I don't have to like it. I don't have to like it or sit and go over the details with her.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
I would not push her out. Don't get in her way, but don't push her out either. I think you will regret it if you do. Especially don't do it until you've given it a couple days of thought.
There is no OM in the picture is there? Do you have any suspicions?
She's only still here while she finishes her financing.
I'm pretty sure she'll at least miss me when shezs gone now.
She said she didn't realize that she'd been leading me on this past week (BS?) and that it hadn't changed her plans (obvvious now).
I didn't honestly think it did but I thought it may at least make her havve second thoughts. Afterall, this all started because she didn't have that 'in love' feeling for me. She's admitted finding it for at least some occasions recently.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
I'm not sure that I handled last night completely "appropriately" whatever that means. There was a hug before bed.
It's so weird. She weems like she doesn't want to go, but is going to go through with it because she doesn't want to feel like she was talked out of it or backed out or whatever.
I'm planning on getting home later tonight again. I'm not seeing as much of my S lately because of the amount of time I'm spending out. I'm sure to tuck him in as much as possible though. I guess that I'm trying to get used to not being with him whenever I want. That's the way it will be after she leaves.
Strange. She says she loves me. She said she'll miss me when she's gone. She even said she can't imagine being with anyone else (that what she says now). Then she says she needs to do this, but can't really explain why.
It's like I'm in the twilight zone. I still feel bad for her. I still wish I could fix it. I still see "my" wife pop her head out every once in a while.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
