How can WAS put themselves before their children?

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well isn't the WAS the one who takes on the victim role first? I mean, they are the ones who ask "why am I going through all this pain" and in some cases, keep it in until they are okay with the decision to walk without talking to their S.

Or at least that's how my W was and is. After her "enlightenment" about how she kept quiet for years when she was unhappy and is now "happy" that she's made a decision to leave, she still doesn't open up. Quite honestly, I have no idea what her reason is for leaving because it seems to change and she can't even keep track.

I've asked her many times before the bomb, "are you alright", "is something bothering you", etc. Every opportunity to talk about issues she had about our M, but she never did. Now she continues to play the victim and blame her unhappiness on me.

Her reason for leaving the family behind was that the kids would be happier when they don't see her being unhappy. WTF? Why is she even unhappy? Oh well. Could just be just my sitch.

Nope. It's not just your sitch. Mine is almost exactly the same, except my W has also rewritten history and claims to have never been in love with me at all.
I'm new here & I'm honestly shocked to read so many stories that sound just like mine.