Actually, my favorite word these days is Grace. When you show your love with grace you have no fear. It kills passive/agressiveness and defensiveness. You actually can listen to the other person express themselves. Some affirmations I use are "what is the most I can do." I try and keep my thoughts and actions aligned. Talk the walk and walk the talk. Walk the talk is the most important!
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What are here issues with your marriage that need work?
Where to begin? Communication, Appreciation, acceptance, respect.
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What are her LLs?
I have to get this book but Acts of Service has to be high on the list. I have done a lot of that. It seems that the most effective things I do have nothing to do with me. I mean if I fix things in the house that would take a back seat to fixing things for her and our kids. Words mean things to her only if demonstrated by actions, at least now that is the way it is. I have told her I thnik she looks nice when I think she does and it seems insincere to her. She is not trusting me to mean what I say. Love Bank deposits are a focus of mine - 180's at work here as well as eliminating withdrawls.
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What are you doing for yourself - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually?
Physically - quit smoking, lose weight, exercise Mentally - Reading, quit watching so much televison Emotionally - Journaling my thoughts and emotions Spiritually - Attend church on a regular basis , I never went now I have not missed a week.
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What are you doing to be a great Dad?
This is harder now that I do not see them as much but I go to all the games and events that I can. The thing is I always did this anyway. Be stern when I need to be.
