Trying to save my M. W not really trying though.

[ClingingToHope]

In my case, I believe our S is actually giving us a fighting chance at saving our M. I wish we had S years ago, I told my W that, and she totally agreed.

So don't think S is the end of your R. It may be the end of your old M, but it just might be the start of something newer and better.

If I had to put odds down today, I'm 80 percent sure we are heading for a D. But I will agree that in our case a S was necessary and will turn out to be the only chance we have of saving the M.

I was working harder and harder to keep us together, but everything I was doing was pushing her more and more away.

It wasn't until we S that I went to marriage classes and learned the myriad little ways I was making her unhappy.

She knows I'm working on these and we had one good talk a month ago where she said she was grateful I realized the breakup wasn't all her fault.

Still, her heart may have hardened too much towards me. My only chance is to continue to improve myself and hope time and space will give her a chance to forgive my past faults and try again.

The hardest part is realizing the future of the M is 100 percent in her hands. I can work and work and work but it may be in vain for this relationship. At least I know I'll be better prepared for the next one.