I know all situations are different but I don't see how our R can get back on track once we're no longer living under the same roof.
My W and I separated at the beginning of this year, and she was having a long distance A. Not a great situation, to be sure. However, something unexpected happened. As we lived apart, and as her A forced us to be emotional away from each other for many months, our dysfunctional R dissolved. We had been locked in a vicious cycle of resentment and disappointment for many years, and that cycle was broken. To my amazement, I started to just enjoy my W for who she is, the woman I met all those years ago. She started showing me how much she liked me too. I don't know if our M will survive, but we are nicer to each other now than we've been in a long time, we communicate better, and we truly enjoy each other's company. In my case, I believe our S is actually giving us a fighting chance at saving our M. I wish we had S years ago, I told my W that, and she totally agreed.
So don't think S is the end of your R. It may be the end of your old M, but it just might be the start of something newer and better.
