I want so much to talk to her and tell her how I feel.
Try to really see this from the outside. Think how selfish that statement is. She doesn't want to talk to you, yet you want to ignore that to get your needs met. The way to show her love right now is to give her what she wants - space. You need to take care of yourself now. You can do it. I'm sure you did it just fine before you met her, didn't you?
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I worry that saying nothing and just being happy will make her think I have moved on and am okay with this.
You WANT her to think this. She has put up enormous psychological walls to protect herself from you, and the guilt she feels over leaving you. She has to feel those walls are no longer necessary before she'll take them down. If you're okay and not pressuring her and moving on, she'll realize she doesn't need them any more.
No matter what she says, the fact that she's hesitating regarding D procedures indicates conflict within her.
You're at the beginning of a long road. Just hang in there, work on yourself, take care of yourself, treat your W with love and respect, and be patient.
