I apologize - I meant to list abuse as a reason to leave, not for divorce, but then again, God has COMMANDED divorce before, but we'll leave the theological battles aside.
Also, FYI - I have been pushing a dissolution since almost January/February of this year, and W kept pushing it off.
Anyway, just because I have chosen divorce, I have not stopped loving my wife. I have not stopped doing the right thing. I feel no shame in what I'm doing. You are not better or worse for me for hanging around.
I don't feel like you deserve applause for what you're doing, any more than I did for waiting for three years. Keeping your vows, yes. Not going out and sleeping around, great. Many admirable things have happened in this time span.
However, you pick and choose Bible verses to support what you want. You completely ignore 25's incredible advice, and you simply wall yourself off.
I have been where you are - I have watched my children to sink into anger and bitterness toward their Mom.
If I do not file divorce, (which Jesus HIMSELF allowed for) then I teach my children that it is OK to leave your spouse, shack up with someone else, and do whatever you please.
I can understand teaching them love and reconciliation, and indeed, my kids know I still love W, but they will know, that in their future marriage, they deserve to be treated with respect and dignity.
I would take a bullet for my faith, and I did pray very hard about this because I don't want to be wrong. What I discovered was that I was cramming God into what I wanted.
