so when You've Lost That Loving Feeling, you've lost it, whether or not there's an OP.
Oh puh-leeeez. Look at the turning points here when the LBS gets attention from OP...It is a flippin' quagmire and why I'm glad that while I've forayed into dating and a little romance, I have no significant other to speak of (or to muddy the waters)...
I just don't see how we can chastise the WAS for allowing an OP to impact their decision making/feelings and then negate that it is a factor for us...I differentiate here, it is chastisable for he/she who was in the marriage when he/she diverted his/her affection...it is a "factor" (not chastisable IMO) when it is the LBS moving on. Nonetheless, when analyzing and sifting through the trough of feelings and notions, please don't rule it out.
