K4D Rising #4

[K4D]

JonF,

I didn't realize you were JDollie and still on the boards. I had followed your sitch for some time. I thought you had already filed for D sometime ago. Then you disappeared I thought.

I don't really want to get into the whole divorce permission for adultery discussion again as I have been down that path to many times. See page 92 for my final answers on any of that.

I'm glad things have improved for you in your life outside of your M. I know you were at this for over 3 years.

I can't do anything for my W but love her unconditionally, pray for her, and do what is expected of me as a H and father and that is something.

Believe me, she has her space from me. I don't infringe on that at all. She prefers it that way and I comply with it.

I don't know where people get abuse as cause for D in the bible. Not that I think anyone should live in abuse. It just always intrigues me when someone lists that as not being a sin for D. I have never seen that in the bible.

But that aside, I don't blame anyone for getting out of an abusive situation. Safety is #1 no matter what.

I am inching along. lol. Probably more true than I care to admit. Sometimes I don't feel like I am inching at all and other times, yup, inching along.

I won't be the one to file as Paul said, Husbands, do not divorce your wife. So I won't do that.

And yes I look at each week as W has not refiled for D as a positive. Some say it is just a timing issue. I saw the D get dismissed and I have seen the refiling constantly delayed, so I think there is more at work there than meets the eye. Here we are approaching the holidays and W is about to be out of a job, so I know she doesn't want to spend the money right now. I have no idea what happens when her job comes to an end. I am now trying to save more for many reasons, but that being one of them with the expectancy of my expenses to go up when W isn't bringing in a paycheck.

Kevin