How did I get here?

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My brother in law (maybe former) just called me. My W called him and asked him to help her move on Thursday. He was calling me to tell me he is only helping her because he has to more or less. He does not support or condone anything she is doing and said no one in her family does. He knows her from before her last divorce and cannot believe she is doing this again, now with 3 kids. Doesn't make me feel any better but it is good to hear someone thinks along my lines.

Like here on the boards, he said she was in a fog. He said he thinks the fog is created by her own head and someone else. He thinks someone else has to be in the picture somewhere. I know I cannot do anything about this at this point. She is moving out...what can I do?

He said he is really going to lay into her on tomorrow while helping her. I'm sure this won't help but he said she needs to grow up.

What a mess. I know she will wake up someday...just having the patience to get there sucks....if that day really ever comes.