After starting this thread I honestly thought this might generate some honest, healthy discussion. It seems to me that the kind of honest soul searching required by this subject may be too much for some of the members on here, but let me remind you just how liberating it really is.
Food for thought: It is estimated that 50% of all marriages suffer from some form of verbal abuse and controlling behavior. What are the chances that a good amount of the members on this site have these behaviors in their lives? I'd say pretty good.