I love you (Philia Love) but I am not in love (eros) with you.
yeah, yeah. that phrase--it's a cop out, a way to continue to look like a good guy. as in, I don't want to look like a real creep by saying I don't love you any more, we'll just pretend I still enjoy your company/want the best for you. meanwhile I'm going out and acting on my hormonal impulses with somebody I like better now. it doesn't really mean a thing!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012