I don't want to just be friends with my Ex, I really want us to get back together, hopefully sooner rather than later, ...
maybe you should stop giving HIM mixed signals, then? sure, he's giving you mixed signals. he's very uncertain about a lot of things. But if YOU are certain you "want him back", then why push him away, with that stuff about "maybe we should just pick up and drop off"?
One of you being confused with mixed signals is bad enough. Two of you that way, will get nowhere fast You dont have to pursue him. but neither do you have to push him away. Why not just let him be comfortable with whatever he's comfortable with, and let him set the pace of things?
Yes, you are having a problem dealing with your "feelings" now. But that's what got you into the divorce in the first place, isnt it? You told him you didnt think you could deal with your feelings. In other words, you implied to him that you were going to "follow your feelings", reguardless of anything that was talked about or agreed on. So he left you. Because marriage is an agreement, not a feeling. A marriage does not stand on feelings. It stands on commitment. Do you agree?
What about showing him(or yourself) you are different now in the largest way possible, by dealing with your feelings firmly, instead of letting them make decisions for you.
If you are not different, however, and you are still ruled by your feelings from day to day... maybe you arent ready for a committed relationship yet?
