Scared and need advice

[Calliope]

So funny that we have opposite problems, yet regardless, the H's make things difficult for us either way!

I feel the same way about the house thing. I hated that he came on Saturday without telling me. It disturbed my whole day, and I wasnt looking my best . I guess we do have to pick our battles though. I know if I gave him a hard time about that, he would use that as an excuse to not pay half the mortgage!

The common theme with our H's though is their absolute selfishness. They turn our world upside down, and then get frustrated with us when we don't give them their closure at the pace that they want it. I struggle with the house thing too. I love our home, but not the mortgage that comes with it!... I'd love to be closer to my family, but that means I'd be taking the boys further away from their dad. Decisions are easy for them, because they are being so irrational right now. It takes more thought and time to come up with a rational decision Do whats best for you. Don't worry about the pressure from him. And from what I've heard, this DB stuff takes tons of patience!

When he emails, do you respond? When I knew my H would be coming in the house, I'd do things that made him notice. Rearranged the living room, left my bottle of wine and glasses out from the night before. Subtle hints to let him know that I am living my life