I've heard the "want to see if I miss you" thing too. (God, is there a manuel for being a WAW?)
From what I gathered, if she missed me it would help to show that we're "meant to be." Meant to be? By who I'm not sure. It seemed to make sense to her at the time.
Funny that you mention that she may more remember saying it. In conversations with my W on more than one occasion, W has said "I didn't do/say that" about things that she indeed has done or said. She's even made up things that I supposedly have said which never were uttered!
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.