And don't be fooled by what goes on the first few days. My W barely spoke to me after I went dark for a couple of weeks. I was thinking this must be so easy for her. When we finally did speak, I found out that it was just as hard (if not harder) on her than it was me. Don't try to mind-read. Seriously, do you really think you can figure out what is going through her head right now
During the time I was dark, I found this board very helpful. If I wanted to say something to W; I put up here instead. It's like a journal that offers advice and support.
