Welcome. Sorry to hear about your problems. I'm new to all this too, but I will say that pleading and trying to reason with my WAW did not yeild any significant results. I am just now starting to GAL and my God has there been a change in her attitude. But more importantly I feel a lot better, so either way this goes I've done soemthing good for myself or our marriage.
My W's affair began as an emotional one with a mutual friend. Affairs seriously alter a person's brain chemistry and make them highly unreasonable, even emotional ones. They cloud judgement, make the OM seem fantastic and the spouse seem terrible. They make people rewrite thier own relationship history to try and explain why they're cheating. My wife now considers our marriage to be an ultimatum I gave her. But I'm SURE she did not take those vows for that reason. I know she loved me and felt she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me.
This is probably going to make counseling and working out any issues between you VERY tricky if she is still in contact with him. It's sad but I almost feel like my W had to leave me, devastate me and our loved ones, turn her life upside down, and go completely down the wrong path before she started to realize the grass is NOT greener. I hope there's another way to enlightenment for your W.
Age: 28 Wife's Age: 28 Relationship: 10 Years (dated on and off) Married: Less than one year Seperated: 1.75 years, finally served with D 4/30/2011
