I am very impatient = but one of the best pieces of advice I get from the folks here is that DB is a long term commitment and it requires patience, patience, patience.
Keep doing exactly what you're doing if it works - if the GAL and the texts get a response, then keep doing it. You will probably only see small baby steps (like lingering a few minutes before he leaves) but note them. Write them down. Keep track of them. These are the baby steps that will hopefully increase if you keep up your current actions. It's easy to jump ahead to the big reunion you dream of (well that's what I do anyhow) but remember they only inch their way toward us.
My IC told me to see H as a feral cat. You sit still with a plate of food (your love, your willingness to work on R, whatever that symbolizes to you) and don't approach them too suddenly or they will retreat in fear.
Your H sounds to me like he is more afraid of looking at himself than you - but if you stay detached and calm and upbeat, he cannot blame you for his feelings ( you're in CODA - so you know this). Getting close to you means getting close to his responsibility for his actions and feelings - sounds like he doesn't want to do this. Just remember it's not about you.
