It does, Pup, and thanks for your thoughtful response.
I asked because I wonder about just what you mentioned, that unresolved childhood issues make manifest in people's aversion to accountability.
I too agree that one should not try to evoke shame for harms done, nor should one condone those harms done either. You've taken the word right out of my mouth with regards to all of us falling short.
I have learned (the hard lesson) that glossing over your spouse's faults can be even more unhealthy to a M than pointing them out. The balance between the two extremes is that we have to, as the Apostle Paul suggests, speak the truth in love.
Unfortunately, some don't care to have the truth stated at all, especially if that means any form or degree of discomfort.
I am reminded of when Jesus spoke to the Samaritan woman at the well. He showed her the utmost of compassion and understanding when he addressed her, and yet he still spoke the truth about her sinful life. He did not shy away from that which was uncomfortable to her, identified her sins and offered her a path to salvation -- He spoke the truth to her in love, and in so doing raised her outlook upward.
Sadly, our modern world would rather choose to look upon His confrontation with this woman as "oppressive".
