The trunk, under the seats, in the glove compartment, any nook or crany that a phone sized item could fit in. I hope there isn't anything there, but if there is watch out soon to be ex!
Hope it goes well.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Depressing. She said X may be able to win in court. She isn't setting an emergency hearing. It seems obvious to me that he is increasing the time b/c of $$, but the judge can believe his b/c they're attending public school in his county reason. She said not only could he get the half time with the kids that he's doing now, but he could get extra weeks at Christmas and summer vacation. This from a guy who has never once taken them on a summer vacation ever. He's taken tons of vacations with OW though. It makes me sick... She said they'll probably reduce child support as well, and I'm already so broke. I'm worried if I don't get a good-paying job I'm going to be homeless or carless or both. Then the L tells me things like I'm letting my life pass me by, and I'm not getting any younger, etc. She thinks I've wasted/wasting my life on my kids from her comments like that. I told her I'm happier than I've ever been in my life so be it... I hate lawyers!!!!
And your L is "supposed" to be tough??? Just don't see it. Maybe you should tell her to get off of her rear and do the job you are paying her for. No one should 1) Just be able to come up and take your kids when you have already been sticking to a previous arrangement and you have both agreed to previous said agreement. You are NOT aggreeing to the changes he is trying to make now. 2)He should not be able to hold your funds "hostage" unless you do as he says. I believe he was ordered by the court to pay those funds until your divorce was done and finances updated.
Your L is sounding like she is just tired of the whole thing and is going to roll over. Light a fire under her Karen and tell her to get to it NOW.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
WTH business is it of hers about what you are doing with your life? GRRRRR!!!! She apparently has no kids or she wouldn't say that. Especially kids with special needs. Good grief! You shouldn't be a hermit, but you also can't be out partying all the time. Ok...rant over...
What is her reasoning for believing he would win in court? What is his argument?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
What is her reasoning for believing he would win in court? What is his argument?
They started attending public school in his county (my schools are horrible in my county). We were homeschooling the 10 years before last month.
The statutes they go by say they look at prior involvement of the parent before litigation though, and he was apathetic the first year of litigation too, very few overnights prob. averaged out to about 52 overnights last year. I hope she's wrong. She told me today she is thinking about retiring this summer, so I think she has lost some of the focus maybe someone else would have, but my brother and X have already paid her close to $10,000 now so to switch at this point wouldn't be possible (though I would love to)!
Ooooo, your L sounds like she's verbalizing what I think mine is feeling. When my finances have dwindled down and I am broke, I notice that my L doesn't give as much of her time to me or my case. It's like they see the money supply is running out, so they focus on other clients instead.
BTW, why are so many of us feeling the pinch simultaneously all of a sudden?
WTH business is it of hers about what you are doing with your life? GRRRRR!!!! She apparently has no kids or she wouldn't say that. Especially kids with special needs. Good grief! You shouldn't be a hermit, but you also can't be out partying all the time. Ok...rant over...
I know, she's just trying to encourage me or something, but she just doesn't understand I don't think a mother like me. She's been working full-time all her life, in the military and law, so I think she is my complete opposite. She has no understanding of someone like you or I or kat or nc or dylan or I could go on and on...
I need to tell her to shut the he** up but in a polite firm way next time she does that. She's done it before, and next time I'm determined to call her on that. She's my L, not the other way around, just have to remember that.
So is her grand idea in this for him to continue to take them against your wishes on the night you should have them? Tell her you want the emergency hearing and you want this behavior from him (and her for that matter) stopped.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
