Hi C, I read your post today. That is rough, your H sounds difficult to deal with. (aren't they all though lol). I have the opposite problem. I haven't seen H for about 3 weeks, & have had about 2 very brief emails in that time. One was that he was sorry to hear my cousin died (I didn't email him but had sent death notice to our home shared email & he saw it) and another to let me know he was showing the garage apt. For you, it's hard to go dark cause of kids & brings more arguing; for me, it's like there's nothing keeping us in contact so there's zero communication. Makes it easier to detach though, so I guess I should just focus on me & not worry about it.
I know he was over at house too, & didn't let me know because I saw mail brought in. I dont' like that, & L said if H has been gone over 30 days he is trespassing by just coming in uninvited. What bums me out is that he didn't even email to tell me. He usually was in the past. I don't want to bring out the legal big guns for this stuff but guess I could if I wanted. It upsets me, and I feel right now like he hates me. Or doesn't care, which is probably worse.
I think he's mad that I am taking (in his mind) a long time to hire a lawyer, make big life decisions about who gets house, dogs etc. I am trying to use this time to decide if I should move out of our house & get away from all the memories, plus I don't really want this house by myself - it's old & big & has "issues". But if I do seems like I'm giving up on DB, because then there'll really be no reason for any contact whatsoever. :-( Sort of wondering if I'm done, it seems like M is over. I am just keeping on, but wonder if I should be doing something more than going dark. Still working on the GAL. Thanks C, for checking in. You seem to be doing a good job detaching & that's really important. Maybe you can use your "break" from his this weekend to do something nice for you!
