I'm worried about the effect on our kids. I'm not choosing D or separation. I want my kids to know that I do not want to be away from them, but don't want to inadvertently blame my W for things. I just want an honest way to communicate that I want to be with them but not make them feel bad about my W or me.
Any help on that front? Any experiences that could help?
Then let your wife explain with you there. You let the kids know you love them and answer any questions. If it is her choice then she is responsible for her actions not you. Don't get baited into a argument. You aren't responsible and can't control how your kids will feel. You only control your thoughts, feelings, and actions. You can handle it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
