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Hi GIMA

Just caught up on your thread, that's a good sign, keep that going for sure.



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GReat job, GIMA.


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Thanks guys. Another small touch this am (don't worry, I'm not going to post each time this happens). Placed my hand on the small of her back to keep her from backing into a drawer I had pulled out in the kitchen. Doubt she really noticed it.


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Doubt she really noticed it.


You are being watched.


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Originally Posted By: Coach
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Doubt she really noticed it.


You are being watched.


OK. She is NOT a morning person. Only reason I added that in.

We are emailing and IM'ing back and forth about the Disney trip coming up in a week and a half.


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Positive baby steps.

And coach is right, they notice. SHe may need coffee first, but she'll notice.


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Yeah!!!!!!!!!
I am taking notes. These moves sound brilliant.

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Quick update. Not much to tell.

At dinner, W laid out a place setting for me to sit by her at the island in our kitchen (this is not the usual place setting, but I angled into that slot yesterday so I could hold her hand during the blessing). And damn if our D-5 didn't decide she wanted to sit in my seat which put D b/w W and me. Thank God O love D so much. I do think it is important for me to sit with the rest of the family at dinner rather than stand on hte other side of the island as I have done in the past.

Another evening that seemed to go well. We watched one of the episodes of Ken Burns' new series on PBS about the National Parks. Very well done, and who could argue with the scenery. Have to get to Yellowstone soon.

W was talkative, as usual. When it came time for bed, it almost seemed as if she was trying to get to her room before me. I am usually the one who makes it to my room first.

Did not get to work in a touch tonight. But, I'll get her in the morning!

D's birthday party on Sunday. Some of my relatives will be there. I know from talking to them they will be a bit uncomfortable. But, there's nothing I can do about that other than what I have done - tell them just to be themselves and do whatever they are ok with. It's not going to affect me either way.


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Keep at it. Gima. Doin' great!


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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
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I know from talking to them they will be a bit uncomfortable.


They will cue off your lead. Don't you think your wife feels a little uncomfortable too? Incredible opportunity to shine. Maybe it's time to have a small R talk about how you are going to handle this weekend. Give her some security and assurance. Use the party to fill her love buckets. When you show her LLs in front of family it is powerful.

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